End of June in Review

So, the last couple of weeks haven't been too exciting (*giggle*) First a really cool story. I was riding in the elevator the other day at work. It was just me and a random lady that works at the DMV with me. As we were riding, she turned to me and said "You look really good." "Thank you," I replied. I mean it felt a little strange cause I was not wearing any make-up at all (which is a really good sign of how good the laser treatment is going). She then continued, "I think it's great that you are getting to do what you need to do to be happy." I just smiled and said, "Thank you." It left me with a really warm feeling in my heart, which was nice, since I was asked if I was pregnant the last time a strange woman talked to me in an elevator. So, things are definitely getting better!!

Speaking of better, I'm doing a computer course through the union/state partnership so that I can take a civil service test later on. The nice thing is, though, that I can also take the course at home, so if I don't finish it by the time my surgery comes, then I can use the recovery time to still take the course!!

Okay, I already mentioned the cool news about my super cool Mom (read the previous edition if you are wondering what in the world I'm talking about).

The electrolysis is going really well. I'm letting the medical expert apply the numbing agent, so it's being covered better and she even came with me and held my hand for the procedure last night. I was surprised that she still had feeling in her hand, but she actually apologized to me, because she, evidently, never realized how traumatic having your who-who electrocized can be (does that make sense? Um, if it didn't, well, consider yourself lucky {or email me if you REALLY REALLY want to know}). Anyway, I only have a few more sessions with it, so I will hopefully survive.

Okay, and there's the big BIG news. . .WE FINALLY HAVE MARRIAGE EQUALITY IN THE STATE OF NY!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, this is a big deal thing for us, since I am in a lesbian (well, technically, soon-to-be lesbian) relationship. The only bad news is that we now have friends asking when WE'RE getting married. I mean, it's great that everyone cares and is supportive of us, but, honestly, we'll do it once we're ready. This is a very changing time for the two of us, so it's still a ways off.

The bad part of that is that a particular friend and I have had to part ways. She state her opinion on her state (Ohio) versus the one I live in (NY, obviously). As the FB discussion continued, marriage equality was brought up, and she said "we have different views (or ideas, or something to that extent) on equality." I was not happy, and I realized that, since it's been 15 years since I had actually seen her, we have grown to be different people. If she' s not going to be supportive of something that was incredibly important to me, then it was no longer time to keep her included in my list of friends on FB.

So, PapaBear came over with his god sons. It was interesting, cause he doesn't do a great time of estimating arrival times, and kinda showed up at the house twenty minutes before I got home. Yeah, my Beloved didn't even allow him in the house (*giggle*). But we did go out for dinner, so that he could get some coffee and we talked for a little while. It was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo nice to see him, especially since our original plans to go to visit him and MammaBear this weekend are not going to occur. But I am hoping to see them before the end of summer!

Anyway, I'm finishing up a couple of surgery requirements very shortly, so that, hopefully, things can move right along. We'll see.

Really awesome supportive news

Okay, so, since I am just finishing up paperwork for the surgery as well as the necessary electrolysis, I have time to devote towards other important parts of life. One of them is that when/if I propose to my girlfriend, I would like for us to have the choice to get married in our state of New York. The cool part is that the Marriage Equality side is pretty sure it will pass in the senate (it already passed in the Assembly). So I have had a nice time calling twice a day for the last half week (and will start again on monday) calling Dean Skelos. He's the leader of the Senate who gets to decide what is ACTUALLY getting voted on each day. He's, unfortunately, not wanting to listen to the will of the people of New York (or he just enjoyed discriminating against they glbt community, cause, evidently, that's what Conservative-Religious-Republicans like to do these days), and not letting it get voted on. So I keep asking his secretary why it isn't and that he should allow the vote in the Senate.

Since that hasn't happened yet, I left a message on his machine on sunday, and I will go back to calling his office on Monday (if you would like the phone number, it is posted fifty billion times on my FaceBook page)

In other really awesome supportive news, my Mom has requested the paperwork of my surgery (aka the court order or what-have-you) so that she can get my birth certificate changed. Yeah, my mom ASKED for the paperwork for it. She's going to make sure that they will do it without me being there, but my Mom actually ASKED ME for the paperwork so she could do it!! She' really really cool!!

Hopefully, I will put up soon about the Marriage Equality vote occurring AND going to the signing of the bill as well.

Random thoughts

So, I am slightly nervous over a conversation that I am about to have a with a friend. I'm going to be explaining to her about the leather community. I'm not nervous about how she will take it, cause she knows that it has to do with BDSM But it is my practice run on explaining it to Vanilla people and those that will not necessarily be okay with the Dominance and submission that is part of the leather community. Now most people would suggest that I take the easy route and just work the gay centric charities. And for them, that is the answer. But what I am hoping/wanting/needing to do is to show the straight/hetero people that the gay and trans communities aren't really different and that we are all just people. So, I am going to be looking to do charity work that is not gay centric. This means getting used to explaining what the leather community is and why I am helping with their particular charity. My first dry run with that will be Thursday. Followed by the questions that I would not answer at work. *giggle*

In other ideas, the fantasy has come together and the only elements missing are the actual fight choreography as well as learning it with those involved in it. And the music that will be playing. Since I haven't really found a song that works well for this part of the Leather Girl competition, I have decided that (since I have two years until I'm competing), I'm going to write my own music for it! *giggle* This will be really fun!!!!!!

There also was a big family bru-ha-ha that I will not be chronicling here. But to put it short, they were fighting over me and I didn't even know about it. . .and the irony is, is that I really don't have extra time to take off anyway, so it doesn't really matter.